INDIVIDUAL SUPPORT · AUTISM & IDENTITY
Receiving a diagnosis can bring an answer. It can also open up a great many new questions.
What actually belongs to how I function? What have I learned to mask or alter in order to fit in? Which needs have I stopped listening to? Which limits are truly my own?
And when adapting has taken up so much space for so many years, a harder question can emerge:
what belongs to me, and what belongs to what I’ve learned to show?
I support autistic adults in this work of understanding and rebuilding an identity framework after diagnosis.
Sessions take place individually, by video call.
A late diagnosis can put a great many things into perspective.
Difficulties once put down to character take on a different meaning. Some experiences become easier to read. Behaviours you had long tried to correct can turn out to be regulation strategies, needs, or simply another way of functioning.
But understanding that you are autistic does not automatically answer the question of who you are.
Sometimes it is even the opposite.
The diagnosis forces you to revisit your story with a new lens. To look at what was learned in order to adapt. To gradually distinguish real needs from internalised expectations.
And this work can be difficult when, for a long time, attention has mostly been turned outward.
After spending so long learning to observe the world in order to find a place in it, learning to observe yourself can take time.
It is precisely in that space that my support takes place.
I use the phrase identity framework to describe the sufficiently stable understanding we build of ourselves: how we function, our values, our needs, our limits, our preferences, and what gives meaning to our choices.
This framework normally allows us to answer, even imperfectly, some simple questions:
When a great deal of energy has been spent understanding and anticipating outside expectations, these questions can become surprisingly difficult.
The work I offer is not about finding an “authentic” version of yourself supposedly hidden somewhere beneath the mask.
Reality is rarely that simple.
It is rather about gradually learning to distinguish what belongs to how you function, to adaptation, to habits built over time, to needs, to values and to choices.
Not in order to become someone else.
But to have a framework from which to choose your way of being in the world more freely.
There is no single path after a diagnosis. Some questions nonetheless come up regularly in this kind of support.
Putting words to certain ways of perceiving, processing information, communicating, concentrating or regulating yourself.
The aim is not to turn every behaviour into an autistic trait, but to gradually build a more precise reading of your own functioning.
Looking at situations where a significant amount of energy is spent anticipating, controlling, translating or masking.
Understanding not only what you manage to do, but also what it costs you to do it.
Some limits have been crossed so regularly that they become hard to identify before exhaustion sets in.
We can work on recognising needs, signs of overload and the conditions that allow you to function sustainably, earlier on.
Identifying certain strategies developed over time and understanding what they do for you.
The aim is not to systematically “remove the mask”.
Some strategies can be useful. Some can be chosen.
The question becomes instead:
am I still the one choosing to adapt, or has it become the only way I know how to exist in this situation?
When decisions have long been organised around what is expected, acceptable or socially legible, identifying what really matters to you can take specific work.
Values can become a point of support for finding greater coherence in your choices.
Revisiting certain past experiences without trying to rewrite your entire history through autism.
Understanding what the diagnosis sheds light on.
But also what it does not explain.
And gradually building a way of telling your story that does not reduce your identity to the diagnosis.
I do not see this support as a place where someone comes to receive a new list of rules for functioning better.
Rules are something many autistic people have already learned a great many of.
My role is different.
It consists of offering frameworks for understanding, asking questions, making certain mechanisms visible, and helping the person build their own reference points.
I can bring my own experience of autism, my knowledge, the models I work with, and years spent supporting neurodivergent people.
But I cannot decide, in someone’s place, what is meaningful for them.
That is why I like to sum up my approach this way:
walking alongside, not ahead.
The aim is not to build a new standard to conform to.
It is to regain enough self-understanding to be able to choose.
I am autistic, an author, trainer and speaker specialising in neurodiversity.
For the past three years, I have also been supporting autistic and neurodivergent people as part of my work with Handigital Grenoble.
This work has led me to focus in particular on understanding how people function, communication, self-assertion, flexibility, executive functions and metacognition.
My work on post-diagnosis identity has been built at the crossing point of this practice, my personal experience, the scientific literature, and the writing that gave rise to my book Après le mot : autiste.
The support offered here extends this reflection around a particular question:
how do you rebuild an understanding of yourself when adapting to outside expectations has taken up a significant place in how you function?
First contact happens exclusively through the form on this page.
You do not need to know exactly what you want to work on.
A few details about your situation and the questions bringing you here are enough.
I personally read every request to check whether what you are looking for fits within the framework in which I can support you.
If I think another type of professional or support would be more appropriate, I will tell you.
If your request fits within my field of support, I will personally offer you a first video call of 20 to 25 minutes, free of charge and with no obligation.
This conversation allows us to get to know each other, clarify your request, and check from both sides whether we want to work together.
This conversation cannot therefore be booked directly through the website.
If we decide to go ahead, a first 90-minute session allows us to look more broadly at your situation and start building the areas of work together.
Subsequent sessions last 60 minutes.
All sessions take place by video call.
The number and pace of sessions are not fixed in advance.
They evolve according to your situation and what is useful to you.
There is no commitment to a minimum number of sessions.
90 minutes · €150
By video call
A longer first session to understand your situation and your history, and to begin identifying the main areas of work together.
60 minutes · €100
By video call
The pace is set together, according to your needs and what is useful to you.
No mandatory package. No minimum number of sessions.
The first 20-to-25-minute conversation offered after reviewing your form is free of charge and involves no commitment.
This support is centred on understanding how you function, your identity, your needs, your limits, your values and your life choices after an autism diagnosis.
It is neither psychotherapy, nor medical follow-up, nor a diagnostic process.
I do not make diagnoses, and this support does not replace the care of a psychologist, psychiatrist, doctor, or any other healthcare professional where such care is needed.
When a situation or request falls outside my field of support, I would rather say so clearly than offer an intervention that would not be suitable.
You do not need to recognise yourself in all of these points to get in touch.
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